Your Words Matter. Don’t Be a D*ck With Them.

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Our Words Matter

When you write them down and send them to the glorious internet; or get them bound, published and shipped through Amazon; or get them typeset and printed and in the hands of a producer—those words weave together to create our thought world. Your words go out there and tell us who we are. They tell us what our values are. They paint what is stunning and gorgeous; what is dark and horrifying; what is magical, and what is macabre.

Go read the rest, okay? Cool.

Your Words Matter. Don’t Be a D*ck With Them.

7 thoughts on “Your Words Matter. Don’t Be a D*ck With Them.

  1. It’s funny, I rarely use curse words in real life. No real reason and I’m not judging those that do; I just don’t. However some of the best posts I’ve come across are those that can go almost the entire distance and by its lonesome is a strategically placed “shit”.

    I think it can move a post along and almost serve as a jolt of adrenaline if you use them correctly.

    Mel uses them correctly.


  2. I find myself wanting to say more than “great post” or “couldn’t agree more.” Everything you said is absolutely true. When I began writing, I also did quite a lot of reading – how to blog – how to format. One question I saw quite a lot in discussions among writers was the topic of using expletives. I won’t go into the bazillion opinions. Instead I’ll share the one comment that, as a new writer, I felt confident enough to share in a group setting.
    “Is profanity a deal breaker? In that discussion people gave various examples of why the use of expletives is not only acceptable, but also needed to add realism to a story and depth to its characters. I cannot disagree with that opinion, for I too have found that a properly placed expletive has the power to shock in speech and in writing.
    I also think that gratuitous blah$%#%^ is both unnecessary to make a point and can be distracting from an otherwise interesting story. Language should excite, provoke, inspire, and sustain us. We often take for granted our freedom of expression and in doing so weaken our ability to appropriately articulate a message.”
    I struggle with this sometimes. When I see the use of symbols to replace letters such as D*ck, as you chose for your title, I wonder why that symbol is somehow, to us, more acceptable than saying what we mean to say. Any thoughts on why *#*# is less offensive to readers? Thanks for the reminder that our words do matter.


    1. I tend to write how I talk, and I tend to throw the swears in there from time to time. I feel like the obscurities help to acknowledge the fact that not everyone is comfortable with swear words. While I want to make my work accessible to all kinds of people, there’s a different emotional quality with “dick” than there is with “jerk,” and “shit” than “shoot” or “stuff.” The words have different feelings, and I use the one that feels right to me. That said, I also go back through my work after the first draft and try to remove the swear words if I can, while still maintaining my original emotional intent. Writing. It’s tricky.


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